"Forgiveness is a breadcrumb on the way to everyday joy. When you hold onto stories about the past, you live the identity of a victim and can't possibly feel joyful.
If you are stuck in a grudge, consider this: You are the one who is suffering most. You are the one keeping yourself from living fully.
Letting go of the past doesn't give approval to bad behavior and it doesn't require an apology. Forgiveness is a choice you make for yourself so you can be free of the past. You walk away from the part of you who keeps the suffering going and enter the land of freedom." ~ excerpt from Tending Your Garden of Everyday Joy by Gail Brenner, Ph.D.